After seeing so many positive reviews, I decided to buy this book in the hopes that it will help me deal with the narcissist in my life. The book's first half helped me better comprehend narcissism. It's fair to say that. I was able to identify the sort of narcissist I was dealing with after learning about the many types of narcissists. The book's recommendations and suggested methods for dealing with the narcissist in our life, on the other hand, set me up for failure rather than success. To top it all off, the part on application took a long time there get to. Rather than improving the situation with my narcissist, I made it worse by following the advice offered in this book. Now that I've learned more about NPD, I realize that no matter how hard you try, you can't change these individuals. The author suggests re-mothering the individual. The weaknesses and vulnerabilities of individuals surrounding a narcissist are projected onto others around them. Our disagreements became much worse since I was unable to implement any of the book's recommendations. I was really exasperated. The narcissist being re-mothered is a risky proposition. There is a good chance that you will be labeled a "control freak" by them.
After putting the book down for good, I received far better advice from someone who had really been there. People who have been victims of narcissistic abuse should break away from the narcissist as soon as possible. This is the finest advice that can be given to them. As a victim, the best advice you can possibly get is to avoid any contact with the perpetrator. Maintaining little contact with the narcissist in your life is the only option if it is impossible to move away from them, such as if you share custody of your children. Applying this book's recommendations? Not a chance in hell!
There are a number of books that can be far more beneficial to a victim than this one, including the ones mentioned below, which are not necessarily placed in any particular sequence but are all worth reading. Disarming the Narcissist is not something I advocate. NPD is a condition that is difficult to diagnose because the narcissist projects a charming image that can fool even the most trained person. If you are a victim of abuse by someone with NPD, or if you suspect that the person might have NPD, seek help from certified professionals with actual experience with NPD. If you're in need of help from the Domestic Abuse Hotline, do so. Not on your own. An individual's recovery period might range from months to years. For now, if you need to start recovering on your own, if you need to study more about NPD to determine whether you are genuinely dealing with NPD, attempt to obtain any of the following books.
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